Improve Your Communication Skills And Influence Others

Improve Your Communication Skills And Influence Others

All we’ve wanted to do since we were a baby is to make a connection with another human being.  And obviously, improving our communication skills is a big part of that.  If you thought it was hard when all you could do was babble, it can still be a challenge as an adult.  It doesn’t matter what career path you’re on, you’re communication skills will be tested.  Those skills may just determine whether you move up or stay put.  Here are a few tips to improve your communication skills.

1)  Listen Up. You may think that communication means you should do all the talking, but the key is in listening.  Save your judgement until the other person has been heard.  Or better yet, don’t judge at all.  I’m a firm believer that when you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.  But that’s another blog post!  Stephen Covey says, “… seek first to understand”.  Pause and listen without thinking what you’re going to say next.  Repeat what they’ve said to ensure you have understanding.

2)  You’re a Ventriloquist. You constantly give wordless signals in your body language.  Your facial expression, posture, gestures, and eye contact are often saying more than your words.  Give your attention to the person with good eye contact.  Show that you’re listening with good non-verbal gestures, such as an occasional head nod or uncrossed arms.  Think about your non-verbal cues as you’re speaking.

When you’re on the phone, don’t think you can forget about this.  Even if the person you’re speaking with can’t see you, they can feel your energy, your emotions.  Do you think that someone laying down on the sofa completely relaxed sounds the same as someone who is walking around their office with a smile on their face?  Whether you’re face to face or on the phone, you’re body language makes a difference in your communication.

3)  Stay Present. If you’re not ready for the conversation because of other distractions, it will only cause problems.  Either eliminate all distractions or ask to postpone the conversation so you can both be emotionally available.

Communication is often to blame for many issues.  Be the one that makes a difference and practice good communication skills.  Accept responsibility for poor communication, apologize, and now the real communication can begin.



Let the communication begin and tell us you’re experiences with how the tips above have improved your relationships… business and personal. Would love to hear from ya!

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